5 Things You Didn’t Expect After You Gave Birth

I have three beautiful children. Each one of them surprises me and delights me everyday. But it’s the things that happened right after they were born that caught me out. Even our latest arrival brought with her some interesting complications. No baby is the same, and no birth is the same. If you’re about to have a new baby, then find out my five weird things I didn’t expect after giving birth:

  1. Not Knowing If You’re Happy – One of the most confusing times in your life will occur when they hand you your baby. You might expect it to be a moment of instant bonding and happiness. But those pesky hormones can throw a spanner in the works. You may be crying and sobbing, but how do you know if they’re tears of happiness? After all, you’ve just been through the trauma of birth. That’s plenty to cry about! Don’t panic about what you’re feeling, because all feelings pass. Your hormones will make you feel dozens of emotions all at once. Just hold your baby and have faith that you are in the happiest moment of your life.


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2. The Mess – When you have your first, you may not be entirely ready for all the mess that comes with it. Every part of your body will be leaking something at some point. And no, there’s no dignity in it. But you won’t care. You’ll be glad the contractions are over, and glad your little one is here and safe. And everything washes! The next mess you need to overcome will be your baby’s first poo. That’s definitely not for the faint-hearted!


3 .Difficult Feeding – Breastfeeding rarely happens without a few difficulties. Not every baby takes to it, and not every mother likes to do it. Having a maternity pillow will save you a lot of arm and neck ache in the beginning. As you’re trying to perfect your technique, the weight of the baby in your arms can make things more difficult and stressful. Relax as much as you can. Play some soothing music, and let your baby rest on his pillow. Being comfortable is the most important thing.


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4. Still Big – I was really stunned at how big I was after I gave birth. I really did think that all that girth was the baby. It takes at least a week for your uterus to start to shrink back, and sometimes it doesn’t. We all carry extra weight when we’re pregnant. It’s not just the baby and waters. And yes, it takes a lot of time and lot of careful workouts to get rid of it. You have a new body now, and it won’t be the same as before.


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5. Superhero – All those times in the past you said “I can’t” have faded. Now you’re a Mum you can survive on just a few hours of sleep. You can live without styling your hair. And most importantly, you can do anything it takes to protect that little bundle in your arms. The moment your baby is here, you become a superhero. Now there is nothing you can’t do. The difference is, you have to do it now.

Motherhood is an extraordinary thing. It’s scary and wonderful all at once. But once you’re part of the club, you’ve got a huge group of other Mums ready to offer you help. Take care.


Fee is a 35 year old mother of three, who has been on the blogging scene since 1996. Over the years she has tried to change her style but finds the personal diary effect to be her niche - there are not many of those around in the blogging world nowadays.

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